Another reader wrote in to let me know she likes my “Peach Blossom Star On 2012″. I’m glad and thankful to hear from you all.
Hahaha! However, I must admit I’m no love expert. I have more follies in relationship matter than you all may care to know and I’m still learning.
In reply to your email, here is what I think. Food for thought!
Must we turn every man who walks into our life which we have certain fondness into a special relationship? Do we need to put in so many of our expectation for someone we just get to know? When the stake is high, everything just fall out because our expectations are not met. Bitterness built up this way. And we simply forget to enjoy the company of someone we like, with us. Isn’t this important?
So I feel, in my humble opinion, it is best to walk into a relationship without any expectation although it is easily say then done. If thing do not turn out as what we wish for or is not heading the direction we intend to, at least we still have a friend.
Yes, my reader you can always have your BaZi consulted to know whether you are getting a pie or lemon in relationship. Maybe your chart does not fit the normal standard of society in term of relationship. So you must know what is acceptable within your means, and what not. From here you can get to know how is best to deal with what you have.
Below is the email I received.
“Happy Chinese New Year, and thanks for writing the article on “Peach Blossom Star On 2012″.
Your article has given me some spark of courage…perhaps see some ‘hope’ and take action to clean up my life.
I’m born on the day of the yi wei, in the month of xin mao, year of xin you and hour of ding hai. In a way, 2011 has not been a easy year for me in terms of emotions.
It is blissful in the month of Dec 2011 which i finally met up with someone that I got to know in Oct. However, as fast as it came, it seems to have died in the month of xin chou (Jan 2012) without me knowing exactly why (there was close to silence, and i did not really hear from him, save few short smses and a message wishing me happy chinese new year), and how I should move on this. It just seems like a short affinity without a closure, neither here nor there. In fact, ever since the month of xin chou has started, it has been terrible for me emotionally. My emotions moved from confusion, self doubt to saddness…wondering if it is something that I’ve said or done wrong to push the person away.
I am not sure if I should see “hope” in the relationship and try to salvage it…perhaps social norm is also stopping me…that is for a lady to make the first move to salvage a budding affinity..esp one which may not have really even started. I’ve never been truly brave in terms of relationship, and have tried to shield myself by not opening my heart.. But this is a person that I feel that I’ve a real liking for due to his honest, gentle and considerate nature, although he has a reticent nature (tends to keep most thoughts to himself), so I am not sure if I should not giving up on the affinity easily, without exactly knowing why.
Now, I really wonder 2012 is a year that I can continue to do that. That is, continue to live in silence, and end the affinity simply without seeking without a proper closure although he has never said anything. However, i do not wish to make things difficult for him either…maybe he is just trying to let me down as lightly as possible, without formally rejecting me. This is especially when you mentioned in the article that strife competition is expected in many things, which includes relationship for Wood Day Master, and that this year is also a good year to put things right and make things clear, and move on.
Thanks for reading my long email, and any advice and thoughts on this would be most appreciated. If you think a bazi consultation with you helps on this, let me know
With gratitude, and hope that you hope that you can keep my identity anonymous.”