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Update on 13 June 2013.

Someone has been asking me to write a few famous and noble characters which keep me thinking. However, there is no X-factor pulling or pushing me to write one. Why? Nothing interesting to write about I guess, and also the facts this quote comes to mind nowadays…

Hahaha! I have just discovered I have a small and average mind. Yuks! Yes, time for an upgrade. Maybe I will write about the people again later when I want my mind to be small.

So for now I’ll talk about ideas and pretend that this idea can really work. Maybe you can tell me if it works for you or your experiences. From the career or business point of view and in my consulting experiences, I have come across many people who do not know what they truly want. Basically one of the factor that cause this is because they have two conflicting Gods/Stars in the same element but different polarity together. In my discussion here, I will focus on the Output Stars which are the Hurting Officer and Eating God. The Hurting Officer is an extrovert while Eating God is introvert. One skill belongs to the performer while the other is artistic.

Some people have better clarity even though they have the Hurting Officer and Eating God together in the natal chart.

Asking them to focus in one work area of either one star is a solution I often offer. However, in the long-run I’ve found that it is not very satisfying and fulfilling for such individual because the elements exist in their natal chart is pulling them in two different directions and likes.

First we must understand that these two gods – Hurting Officer and Eating God needs the wealth element to be valuable so having the wealth star in their Bazi do help. Hence, no matter what they choose to do it will always be rewarded. However, this is not such an important factor in the discussion here per se.

The main issue is to have these stars co-exist harmoniously with each other so that the individual can do two things together and have the fulfilment they want. For this to happen, first we must learn the art of letting go and giving.

I often heard this being said in the seminar, “What you don’t have, give it away.” Basically in term of business, you outsource the work that you are not good at. I like to add another line to this quote, “What you cannot use, sell it.” So for those who have the Hurting Officer and Eating God together in your natal chart, I ask you this, “Can you sell the artsy fartsy in you?”

Letting go can mean you do not need to be the artist himself, doing all the artwork. You can give it away to the person who share your same artistic interest but who are very much better at it. And you?! You help him to sell the artwork. Yes, we must admit to ourselves some time there are certain people who are better than us. Other times we too are better at other area. No one can do all the things alone and be good at it. As such, help people to help you. In the above natal chart, the Eating God is in emptiness. People with the natal chart above are cultured and appreciate the arts but they are not very creative themselves. Every individual has their own capacity and skills, you just have to find yours and make it into excellent one.

In many ways this also applies in business as well. Recently I came across many who want to dabble into the coffee bean business especially those chain coffee retailing. So the first questions I’ll ask, “What make your coffee house standout from Starbucks, Coffee Beans or down to our local franchises like Old Town and Kluang Station?” The quality of your coffee may matter somewhat but it will not be the main pulling factor. Everyone knows the plus factor of good location too. Can you make a different besides what I have just mentioned? So what makes your branding special from the others?

It is not so much of the best coffee bean. Some pull factors are very Hurting Officer style.

Some attractions come from Eating Gods.

Can you bring this one step further? Would you be able to, not only sell the coffee but also give a memorable experience for people to bring home?

Show me what you want to do, I’ll show you the brighter way! ~ Jo

Affinity, a blessing or misfortune? This is what I wonder since one of my friends do not want to pick me up for lunch eh!… to celebrate my birthday. This was because her car had gotten into accident that needed quite a repair after chauffeuring me to dinner for my birthday’s celebration last year, the year before and before. This had been taking place for few years already. It seems every time the accident only happened after she had dropped me off at my home. Hmm… so I jinxed her.

This year she is not willing to pick me up anymore. She says she had surrendered to fate. Not that I mind and worry about travelling to meet her and my other friend, just that it is kind of an irony sometime when you look at the affinity of one’s Bazi with others.

You see I’m a Wu Chen… and she is a Jia Xu.

We are err! mortal enemy so the Bazi say. It is also the reason why I cannot really dismiss the fact that she might be right about the misfortune part in her fate. Luckily, we are only good friends that meet up once awhile. Maybe that’s why we are not onto each other throat yet. But the way I see it, her Day Pillar is clashing into me, I should be the one who get all the brunt but I’m eh, how should I put it… “rock solid”. Nothing untoward be fall me so far.[Keeping my finger cross]

Beside that she also always complains she get a headache when we meet up for gathering me. Sometime it will shift to stomach ache. I always laugh off her complains by saying she is too superstitious, and it is just her stress. She will then give me the not so friendly glare, and of course, then admitted without any qualm she is superstitious all the while followed on with this very last word, “Now only you know meh!!!”.

Somehow even with those complains she, my other friend and me have somehow grown quite close. You see we all are ex-colleagues, and we met while working in my previous company. There were many other ex-colleagues who were in the same batch with us, but we are the only one that keep in touch for so long and share many up and down of our life’s stories together.

Tracking my affinity at previous work place, I only know now, why I was there for such a great number of years. The company is incorporated on 21 July 1975 and commenced operation on 2 July 1980. Gee, the affinity was alarming! I need to double check the date I register my BaziChic.com. Date selection is such an important tool.

So can affinity really have such a big impact on us? I guess it is a yes… somehow.

Sometime I hear people complained from afar that there is a connection between the two persons but can’t seem to get close to the other. Well, I can only attribute this to time factor. How long you are willing to spend time with the people around you, do make a difference. Saying a few pleasantry words in a few chance meeting would not get a person far nor closing the gap. While people always say spend quality time with the people around you, time actually equal to quality itself. So if you didn’t throw in the time don’t complain. Yup, I should remind myself of this daily.

The time factor does not only apply to relationship be it friends or family, it also apply to your work. The longer you spend your time with someone, the better you know and understand them. The longer you are with them the more comfy you will feel around them. So sometimes this affinity becomes a choice of putting the people you really want in your life or putting the people you are comfy around yourself. So is your work, the longer you focus on your work the more experience and effective you are in getting the job done. Even if you are not efficient worker, you will know the in and out of your job well.

This affinity does not take into consideration of a person comfort level. You might think affinity is a kinship and kindred spirit so you will easily get along and know each other well. It is a myth. You are more likely to surround yourself with the people you are comfortable with and the people you have spent considerable amount of time together whether consciously or subconsciously. This person can be a toxic friend, and you know very well of it but you already get use to them. Either you are immune to their toxic level, couldn’t careless one way or another, or you are disgruntled but unwilling to make changes about it. The former are very true to me due to my comfort level. As the name implies being easily comfortable is important factor too.

People with a very big comfort zone always build an invisible wall around them. It shuts people away as a protection I guess. But this wall is actually more a curse than protection. Affinity will not help one bit if the door is closed. This is very true too unhealthy resource people or those who have unhealthy Solitary Star. I can tell you it is very hard to tear the wall down from the inside when one has unwittingly built and what more from the outside. But whatever in life that is hampering your progress be it the invisible wall or a misplace affinity, it must go.

This month I revisited my ghost from the pass or shall I say, chanced upon it. Well, I shall bury it here for good… because there isn’t much in the mind. But me being ‘busybody’ also checked the Bazi to see what was there in the first place. Actually, I totally have forgotten about it until the accidental discovery. Hmm… maybe I need more DHA.

I see the connection now… like moths to a flame.

Time and attitude can really make or break a relationship.

There are also people who get so close as a result of their affinity, but only to get into more arguments, frustration and disappointment. Yes, sometime even fear. A deep down fear of the person you have come to know so well. The longer this people are together it seems they only become more miserable and a built up resentment and suspicious of each other. So is this kind of affinity becomes a misfortune? Or is it a misplace expectation? Or is it a communication breakdown? Usually this kind of affinity teaches us a lesson or two especially you share the same Day Master with that person. It is like looking into a mirror and seeing yourself. The person who shares your the same Day Master reflects you. If you dislike this person, it can be something she or he has that you want but do not have yet or can’t seem to get it. The character you dislike or hate so much in the other person actually is inherent in you, it just that you don’t realise it. Sometime people call this karma, because by dealing with their unpleasant character, you also learn to correct your unpleasantness within your subconscious mind. I call these birds of a feather flock together. You always will be in this circle of nasty people until you know how to deal what is within you.

That is why all politicians flock together. They became nastier when they met another nasty politician. In the dictionary politic carries the synonyms like diplomatic, wise, sensible, sly, cunning, shrews and crafty.

It is also interesting to note of my earlier write-up about affinity of a country. Looking at Dato’ Seri Anwar Ibrahim’s Bazi with Malaysia date of birth chart is a good example. A misplace affinity. I was hoping his annual luck-cycle and his man luck this year can make a change. Yes, there is advancement but not the force that we or he is expecting. A win in the numbers of votes do not guarantee you will be elevated to power. Now we know the difference between popularity and winning the game.

Does this mean our PM with better affinity get a bigger size of the pie? Yes and no. Looking at the economy and situation in Malaysia, it is an uphill task ahead. But if the black market works there are always big chunk of cheese everyone wants to get a share on. But then this is not about affinity.

At the end of the day, your affinity with any person who chance upon your life is a journey and an experience. You can focus on making your journey a happy one or you can make people around you happy. There is a saying that goes, “Being care for is a blessing and a good fortune, and willingly to care for others is great happiness.” Whether you choose being care for or to care for, make sure you know what you truly want and love.

In contemplation,
Jo

Argh! I’m so… annoyed. Another political message sends to my hand-phone. I had enough, be it on Facebook or SMS or from opposition or ruling party, just seeing another one of this message can make me puke. Oh! Oh! Please, please, please, let the polling day be over soon.

On my friend’s birthday dinner recently the discussion cannot escape this… Yup! Politics are on the menu. We do come to an agreement that some party or people are just so missed the point. Do you know what I want? Do you know what the people want? We don’t want another advertisement for sure. Multi-million dollars were spent to advertise Malaysia for what purpose? We never know. Rest assured this has nothing to do with promoting tourism of our country.

Since everyone decided to keep posting, I might as well add my salt and pepper! No lar… you will not find me predicting who is the winning party here ler… because? I’m Malaysian lor… Huh!? Why? How come? What it got to do with me being a Malaysian? Read on…

Malaysian people are very fickle minded lot. It is so hard for them to come to a conclusion on something. They like to sit on the fence so to say. Why? Look at Malaysia’s Bazi Chart below. The people are represented by the Day Pillar, Yi Wood on Hai Pig, 乙亥. As such in general, the people here are not very forward in voicing their view. They rather keep a neutral ground most of the time. Sitting on a Resource Star also mean that they are easy going people, and at some point can border to the naïvety because of the Growth Star with too many water and metal.

For the hour of birth of Malaysia Bazi, there are actually two options which I’m considering. One is the Bing Zi 丙子 hour where the new Federation flag was slowly raised thus officially announcing the handover of British to new Malaysian government. At the last stroke of midnight, “God Save the King” was played followed by “Negaraku”. The moment the band stopped playing the Malayan National Anthem, the silence was shattered by a roar that consisted of a single word, “MERDEKA,” that was shouted repeatedly by at least 10,000 voices [source: Wikipedia].

The Geng Chen 庚辰 hour was taken from the official ceremony where it was believed the hour was at the exact time Tunku raised his right hand three times proclaiming “MERDEKA” followed by the resounding response, “MERDEKA”, from the people.

I have chosen Geng Chen because the earth element gives the Yi Wood a stronger rooting and the Wu Earth in Chen controlled the rather strong water element in this Bazi. So you will get a beautiful lotus flower on the pond instead of a coconut floating in vast open sea. Are the Malaysians survivalists like the beautiful lotus growing out of the muddy pond? Well, I’m not sure but the people here do like to project a goody two shoe image. In reality… Ahem! So far a lot of Malaysia’s coconuts floated overseas so as other countries’ coconuts floated into our shore.

Every changing Luck Pillar, there is some form of change, be it a good or a bad outcome. This is because a new pillar always come with new expectation in life. For Malaysia, it is too moving into a new Luck Pillar. Gui Si 癸巳 is the last year of the Gui Mao 癸卯 Luck Pillar. The Qi flow of the following Luck Pillar, Ren Yin 壬寅, already set in exactly on 4 February 2012 although the current Luck Pillar will only end on January 2013. At this point, there are always mixed feelings and wants, indecision of letting go and reaching out to the new and unknown.

Where Luck Pillar of Gui Mao (Water Rabbit) is concerned because of this combination to the Day Pillar, it has a smooth influence of Qi flow. In such an influence, people tend to be more acceptable of others faults, inadequacy or inefficiency. A clashing annual pillar in 2013 together with the influence of the next luck pillar, Ren Yin (Water Tiger), which is a clash to the Month Pillar in Malaysia’s Bazi indicates the people acceptance level have changed. They are no longer so agreeable to idea and information feeds to them in an unclear and flip-flop manner.

A Hai Pig and Si Snake clashed is called an annoyance clash. So most of the people tend to feel annoy on the current environments and surround situations. Why so? The current Luck Pillar clearly shows that there a lot of hidden activities going on as shown by the hidden combination of Mao Rabbit with Shen Monkey. And people tend to get agitated and unhappy to be kept in the dark. In this case, it may apply to the matters related to the authority running the country. Looking deeper into the clash, it shows the Ren Water actually reflecting Bing Fire, sunlight. So what to make-up about it? A demand to be transparent! Transparent on matter related country’s documentation of projects, business transactions and assets since the Resource element, Gui Water, appears on the Heavenly Stem.

Where do the leaders stand in this picture? Since they are voted into their position and given the authority to run the country successfully, in my opinion their career will be reflected on the Month Pillar. Just like your boss has the authority over you because you chose to work with him in return for a salary but at the same time you too have the right to fire him and change a new boss. So you vote and give authority to those you entrust to run the country efficiently and profitability to the people.

The Month Pillar shows a full combination Gui Si with Wu Shen. At the background of this combination the new Qi of Ren Yin actually post full Heaven and Earth clash to Wu Shen since there is also a clash and combination taking place on the Day Branch. So does this mean the old will be kicked out and a new offer will be given to new leader by the people? Or the old still remain and the new being rejected. Some theory said that when there is a clash, a combination will not happen and vice versa. So which come first? Usually, my take is, both clash and combination will take place simultaneously. For once, even if I want to make a prediction on the outcome, I’m unable to do so as the situation really unclear just like Gui Si, the cloud is covering the sun. Looking on the combination, what’s worry me more is the current wealth and natural resources of the country. A full Heaven and Earth combination means combine away?

Malaysia overall outlook is still a good one since the chart do combine with the Grand Duke 太歲 externally this year. If you remember my previous article this Grand Duke combination does favour someone more. Anyway, there will be someone ensuring the law and order in the country with the present of a friendly Grand Duke. People will also do their part to follow rule and regulation. The Gui Water and Ding Fire crossing each other on the Heavenly Stem just means a lot of steams coming up but it will quickly clear away. So I cross my finger! It is changing for the best.

Chatting with White Meow Meow, Jo

I have been told that I should be more professional in writing stuff on my blog from several people. They say I should keep my personal feelings and thoughts away and be more eh!… more theoretical I guess. I have considered it many times but still… I like it the way as it is now. I can keep my website professional and let this be my own little space. I guess this is because I’m a bit narcissistic, I want to hear my voice, my inner thought out here on my blog… and sometime later when I read back what I wrote, I can laugh at myself, my thought and my emotion. Yes, I can be at time very emo about certain articles I posted.

I think this is much better than contributing on groups or forums. Here, I can do my own things at my own place in my own little world. I’m glad a lot of readers like what I write. I’m also very grateful for those who care to message me and share their view on my write-up although I like to argue much. Yes, I feel this is much better than participating in some of the open group and forum. It is really awful to read those crude ways, remark and high handed manners they fight each other theory down from time to time. When you look through all the posting, actually the issue can be very petty. As I read further into their personal blog, one or two of these people wonder why they are being personally attacked by teaching and doing business in this field but at the turn of the corner, they themselves are involves in the bickering and the putting of other party down.

There are really people who see only theory. Proving their theories right is all and ends all.

What I want is just to use my knowledge to help others as they have placed their hard earned money and trust on me and my knowledge that is not physical and cannot be quantify. To me, what my customer get and the end result is far more important.

I’m pretty glad that I’ve learned my knowledge from none these of people. I guess I’m lucky in that sense that I always meet the right people. When I seriously picked this subject out of my own interest, it was during one of those long ago seminar, I still remembered that I had looked up on the stage that day heard what I like and so registered myself into the courses. I didn’t do much survey and comparing of what other teachers offer then. Along the way, I meet a lot of friends who studies together. They are truly enthusiasts of the Chinese Metaphysics knowledge who learn it for their own use, and some even making it as profession. In our sharing of knowledge and discussion, we never have this kind of petty bickering even though we are in the same field doing the same thing.

As people start adding me to this type of group sharing, I see more of them. I used to think to myself, I want to learn from other teachers too when I finish studying my modules here with Joey Sifu so to get other perspective and point of view. Nowadays, I just think twice who I want to learn from. Just the recent spat over the forum make me wonder whether it is worth studying with them. I’m truly glad I have not seen anyone of my teachers involving in such a pettiness. [Keeping my finger cross]

I think I better to just go about my own musing here in my own blog and page. World peace!

Much Bemused,
Jo